It was very easy to talk to and share my thoughts with Sutton. He put a spotlight on some important considerations in my relationship in a gentle way, and offered a different perspective. Thank you.
… Or seriously considered splitting up because it feels like you’ve grown apart?
Are you missing the passion, the excitement, the deep connection you once had with your partner?
… Or starting to think there’s something wrong with you for never being “in the mood” anymore?
When you’re in a healthy relationship, you feel happy, content and deeply grateful.
And you know your partner feels the same way.
Things are not as you desperately wish they would be …
and you have no idea how to fix them.
“IS THAT IT?!”
You’ve asked yourself this question over and over again.
“Is this really how love is supposed to be in a long-term relationship?”
What happened to all the excitement?
The late night talks.
The “can’t wait for you to get home”
The can’t-keep-my-hands-off-you obsession.
And you want to feel that way about them too.
… But how can you get fired up when you’re feeling drained to your core?
You’re feeling inadequate, guilty and ashamed, rejected, lonely, regretful and alienated.
And as you look for ways to fulfil your need for intimacy and recognition, you find yourself engaging in activities that only make it all worse:
Self-sabotaging, working too much or resorting to gambling or other vices.
You might even be thinking of leaving your partner or feel tempted to have an affair.
All of these behaviours are typical symptoms of a greater problem: that you’re ignoring your need to satisfy your most intimate desires.
“I can’t give her what she wants, and it makes me feel like a failure”
“I am not able to give my partner all that she desires. Every time she reaches out to me, I pull back. It’s been like that in past relationships as well. I feel like I’m falling into old patterns, and it’s breaking my heart. I really want to make our relationship work! We want the same thing, but I just can’t give it to her!”
“We live under the same roof, but we’re not lovers anymore”
“Even though my partner and I live under the same roof, we’ve completely disconnected. I feel invisible to him, and I’ve really started to resent him for it. Like I’m more his secretary than his wife… I often fantasize about leaving. But I’m not sure it’s the right thing to do… What if I regret it and feel even more lonely?”
“I miss feeling alive and being wanted”
“Over the years, my partner has become more of a friend than a lover. At first it was okay. I figured it was normal. But now I miss the desire and the excitement. I day-dream about it every day… And I feel sad about not having that intimate connection anymore. It’s like I’m missing a part of myself. I feel kinda lonely.”
There’s so much more to life. So much deep intimacy to experience. So much love to enjoy.
Don’t let yourself (or your partner) miss out on that. So many more exciting moments that give you butterflies.
We only live once!
It’s NOT okay to NOT do anything about it, and let it grow into an even bigger problem.
When you get that queasy feeling in the pit of your stomach, it’s your body trying to tell you that something needs to change.
Unfortunately, we often give up too soon on something that could’ve been very special.
Either we leave our partner for another – only to repeat the same pattern.
Or we stick around in a relationship that isn’t fulfilling us anymore.
That might even be doing us more harm than good.
Please don’t do that to yourself.
You deserve to experience love in all its beauty and glory.
You just need to learn the right techniques that will help you navigate through the difficulties of your relationship, and get you moving in the right direction, towards a place of clarity, confidence and passionate love.
And you need someone who can gently guide you along the way.
I’ll teach you to use love as a tool to get more of what you want, so you can start enjoying a more exciting sex life and feeling more fulfilled overall in your relationship.
It’s time to change your love story – and this time you’ll be the one writing it.
Transform Your Relationship is the ultimate blend of relationship therapy, sexological counselling, and personal coaching.
When you embark on this journey you become my highest priority. It will be an intense pilgrimage of epiphany, bridge building (to others and to your inner-self) and some hard work.
You’ll discover the deeply-rooted personal issues that are holding you back in your relationship
(either inherited from your parents during upbringing, or stemming from a traumatic event earlier in life, or a negative habit learned and reinforced gradually throughout your life thus far.)
And you’ll learn how to tackle them, build on them, or walk away from them if necessary.
I like that Sutton not only sees the problems, but can identify the root cause of each issue and set the right priorities in the improvement process. I get a lot of attention during my sessions. I never feel alone anymore.
Many times we feel misunderstood or overlooked because we don’t know how to communicate love. Gain clarity on you and your partner’s love language, so you can avoid misunderstandings, speak to each other instead of away from each other, and finally feel heard, seen, and understood.
Many of us let negative past experiences haunt us for way too long …. and potentially ruin our otherwise wonderful relationship. Learn how to finally let go of the past, so you can fully enjoy the present.
Do you feel ashamed of your preferences? Or maybe you’ve done some things in the past that you are not particularly proud of. You shouldn’t bear this burden alone. It’s time to understand why you feel the way you feel, and then make space for letting go.
Living up to society’s standards can be tough. Especially if you feel like your preferences don’t fit the norm (what’s normal anyway???). Learn to be intuitively and unapologetically true to yourself without hurting your partner, but actually supporting them instead.
Let go of grief by learning to embrace your feelings of loss, and maybe even feel grateful for the lesson learned. Give yourself permission to enjoy the present without being dragged down by past events.
The brain is our biggest and most influential sexual organ, but sometimes we really let it get in our way. We start overthinking and feeling anxious about what’s going to happen, and how things might go wrong. If you can relate to this, it’s time to learn the art of being in the moment (and enjoying it!)
So that you can connect with your partner from a place of empathy and love instead of anger, mistrust, jealousy and doubt.
Drinking, smoking, watching porn, looking up old flames, texting with ex’s, cheating or burying yourself in work are all symptoms of something deeper. Learn how to tackle the root cause instead of resorting to distraction, and finally escape away from the controlling force that drives you to negative behaviours.
Work out what you REALLY want in life and in a relationship, and increase your chances of getting it – even if you think that sounds like mission impossible. I’ll teach you how to communicate your own needs and desires (and listen mindfully to your partner’s) without ending up in a fight.
Most people go into a relationship without ever considering what their personal boundaries are. But this is a risky strategy that is bound to break somebody’s heart at some point. If you often feel that your partner is walking all over you, it’s a sign that you need to revise and establish clearer boundaries.
If you get a kick out of looking at old flings, hanging out on Tinder or looking at porn, and actually prefer this to being intimate with your partner, we have a problem. Often it’s a sign that you’re neglecting some of your basic needs – let’s look into that so you can reconnect with the person that really matters in your life.
Learn how to establish a sexual rapport with your partner, and how to create a safe, comfortable environment for talking about your fantasies. So neither of you feels awkward – or hurt. Instead of feeling frustrated, bored, conflicted, and sexually repressed, it’s time to be honest (in a respectful way of course!) so you can finally get what you desire.
Avoid misunderstandings, confusion, anger, disappointment and arguments by learning how to talk ‘WITH’ your partner and not ‘TO’ your partner. Set boundaries and learn how to communicate lovingly – even when you feel like you’re being smothered.
What is it worth to you to
Save your relationship (and family life) before the damage is too great, and it might be too late to save it?
Go from feeling guilt, frustration and “I’m just not in the mood tonight” to feeling love, passion, and “I want you right here, right now!”?
Finally live a life full of fun, joy and this breezy feeling of deep intimacy?
If you’re still in doubt, please know that you’re always welcome to book a free discovery call. No strings attached.
For the past 20 years, I’ve coached many people across the globe. Starting out in sports, then moving on to personal development and lifestyle coaching; today, I specialise in sex and relationship coaching for both monogamous and non-monogamous individuals.
I help you find a solution that meets your own needs, while also taking your partner’s needs into consideration. Many feel stuck in a rut when they come to me. For some, their worries seem like an insurmountable obstacle. Others are in the midst of a life crisis.
My role is to help you navigate your way through the situation you’re in, until you reach the other side. Because on the other side, there’s a life full of the happiness, desire and intimacy you’re craving. I will help you get there!
Sutton is amazing. I learned so much and am constantly quoting and sharing lessons I’ve learned from him. I can’t think of a better coach for sex and relationships! Much gratitude and appreciation.
No matter how hopeless you think your situation is, know that you are not alone. Every day I help people who have the exact same feelings as you, and who are in similar situations to yours.
While it may seem impossible right now, let me assure you that it IS possible to have a happy relationship and a great sex life that perfectly meets your needs AND those of your partner. It doesn’t have to be “either, or”.
Book a free discovery call with me today and start your journey towards a more fulfilling life.
* the discovery call is 100% confidential and non-binding. If we discover that I’m not the best person to help you, I’ll refer you to someone who’s a better fit.